It’s easy to become self-conscious as a teenager — whether it be due to your physical characteristics, style of dress, or even the way you speak, your adolescent years can be one of the most difficult periods of your life. By simply changing the way you think, you can improve your lifestyle for the better — all it takes is a shift in your mindset. Building detrimental habits can lead to negative thoughts and stunt further development. For example, if you constantly worry about a test that didn’t go well, you won’t be able to focus during class time and thus be unable to prepare for the next test. Here are five habits that you should quit in order to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Trying to Please Everyone
Everybody wants to please others and have a good reputation. Remember the last you wanted to say no to someone but felt you were inclined to say yes. Doing this over and over again can take a toll on your mental health. It’s best to recognize the fact that you can’t please everyone. Trying to do so and fixing yourself to fit other people’s standards can be both physically and mentally draining — put yourself first. Make sure to be yourself and not get distracted by others’ needs.
In essence, a fear of change is a fear of failure. With new routines, it’s easy to mess up since you’re not accustomed to new things; thus, many people tend to regress and go back to their old ways. Still, change is a necessary catalyst to approach new highs — without it, you’ll never get better at anything. Instead of not attempting new activities, make sure to prepare thoroughly so that you’re less likely to fail. With sufficient preparation and confidence, you’ll be sure to succeed, even at new things.
Living in the Past
It’s okay to reflect on the past from time to time, but you shouldn’t linger in the past. Now, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take the time to learn from your past mistakes — that’s necessary to perfect your craft at nearly everything. If you keep on kicking on yourself about past mistakes, however, it’s easy to feel discouraged and reluctant to try again. Learn to appreciate what you have in the present and live your life to the fullest.
Putting yourself down
Teenagers always tend to put themselves down when they fail at something. Whether it be when you receive a lower score on a test than your friend, fail at trying to be funny, or mess up on a critical play in sports, it’s easy to succumb to moping about how terrible you are. Such negative thoughts can influence teenagers for the worse. Try to stay positive and believe that you can succeed. Don’t compare yourself with people that are better than you so that it brings you down, but instead try to learn from them and follow their example.
Our lives are often consumed by overthinking. We always imagine what other people think about small, miniscule details when they don’t even notice it. Then why do we overthink? Is it because we’re putting ourselves down too much? Even when taking the Scholastic Aptitude Test (SAT), we sometimes overthink and remain on a certain question for too long only to realize that you’ve thrown yourself off pace. Understanding that you can’t get everything the way you want is an easy way you can fix this problem.